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We all have dreams. Dreams of achieving greatness in at least one area of human endeavour. Many of us dream of becoming world-class singers, successful preachers, renowned motivational speakers, great and influential politicians, advocates of social change and philanthropists to name a few, but unfortunately however, most of us are not able to turn our dreams to reality. In fact, more than ninety percent of the total human population die without eventually actualizing their dreams and visions. A major cause of our inability to actualize our dreams is fear. For instance you are asked to teach a youth class and quickly you respond negatively. You end up asking them to look for someone else because you are much too shy. And you fail to realize that until you take the bull by the horns and begin to challenge your inner fears and feelings of inadequacy, you cannot be of much use to yourself or anyone else for that matter. Ironically, we recount stories of men like Abraham Lincoln. Men who f...

Recently, I was reminded of the Golden Rule, 'Do unto others what you will have them do unto you'. Just pause for a while and imagine what the world would be like if we all obeyed that rule. I think the world would be a much safer and happier place to be in if we all thought about what the consequences of our actions would be on others before actually carrying them out. Certainly our homes and by default the society would be a much better place, because the home is the bedrock of the society. Many of the crimes we hear about today will not be there, armed robberies, assasination, emptying of government coffers, rape, internet fraud, murder, you name it. Most of us are busy thinking about how to gratify our immediate and usually selfish desires. But, it ought not to be like that because what goes around, comes around and many of us forget that. Lets determine today, at least you, reading this post and myself the writer to be careful what we do to others. You may think our effort...

Do you desire great friends or simply would like to know how to maintain the relationships you currently have? If your answer is yes, then here is a list of what I call the 25 rules of lasting friendship? Obey them and you cannot go wrong. Learn to say I am sorry. Do not divulge a secret. Remember birthdays, special days, and other little details. Show appreciation for anything you are given. Nothing is too small. Be generous, even with your time. Keep in touch as much as possible. Leave lines of communication open at all times. Do not make assumptions. Clarify and discuss issues. Give your friend the benefit of the doubt always. Show interest in what is happening in his/her life. It shows you really care. Think before you speak and speak only helpful words. When you are wronged, forgive.When you forgive, forget. Do not keep bringing up the past. Do not keep grudges. No matter how deeply hurt you are. Disregard your friend's fault. Avoid fighting and do not insist on quarrelling. B...

Can you remember coming across a person that you disliked immediately and from further interaction with that person you concluded that you two could never be friends? Honestly, I have come across individuals that make loving them a burden. Infact I have seen them time without number. However, I have also come to the conclusion that no one is unlovable. Its just a matter of you. Afterall love is a choice, and you decide whom you will love ultimately. Why did I conclude that there is no one that cannot be loved? I will tell you. There is this guy I have known for quite some time now. Well, after knowing him for just a few days, I really disliked him, and rightly so. He spoke without thinking and oftentimes ended up hurting those around him, he was too harsh and rash in decision making and never gave people a chance, to give just a few reasons why I did not like him. I began to wonder what to do about him when I took over leadership position of the group to which we both belonged and comp...

Like I wrote in my previous post, sometimes we become saddled with relationships that stress us rather than enhance and bring out the best in us. This leaves us angry and bitter instead of leaving us with that pleasant feeling of being with someone you love. If you find yourself in that kind of a situation, what should you do about it? Take out the time to answer these questions: Is the relationship worth fighting for? What am I doing to contribute to the problem? What can i do to bring about a positive change or to restore the relationship? Every relationship has its own peculiar challenges and how you react to them will determine how long it will last and also how strong it will become. I believe that all marital relationships founded on genuine love are worth fighting for. That is, fight for your own spouse not somebody's else's. On the other hand, I firmly believe that not all platonic relationships are worth the effort, especially the ones characterized by inces...

Life is a stage and to suceed in life we all need to have relationships. Which means that the kind of relationships we nurture and cultivate will go a long way in determining our success. Maintaining relationships of whatever kind should be done consciously. The kind of relationship you desire with a particular individual will determine how much work you put into making it work. We all have friendships that we cherish. What is it about them that we love and want to keep forever? Friendships can be mutually satisfying or may only benefit one partner which is not right and I am not talking in terms of money. Most of us do not like the latter except if we are the self centered partner benefiting from the freindship. Relationships that stress us should be done away with because they leave us drained of creative energy. Before we do this however, we need to evaluate the relationship to find out if we are contributing to the problem at hand of if there is an underlying misunderstanding that ...