Loving The Unlovable

Can you remember coming across a person that you disliked immediately and from further interaction with that person you concluded that you two could never be friends? Honestly, I have come across individuals that make loving them a burden. Infact I have seen them time without number. However, I have also come to the conclusion that no one is unlovable. Its just a matter of you. Afterall love is a choice, and you decide whom you will love ultimately.

Why did I conclude that there is no one that cannot be loved? I will tell you. There is this guy I have known for quite some time now. Well, after knowing him for just a few days, I really disliked him, and rightly so. He spoke without thinking and oftentimes ended up hurting those around him, he was too harsh and rash in decision making and never gave people a chance, to give just a few reasons why I did not like him. I began to wonder what to do about him when I took over leadership position of the group to which we both belonged and complaints about him became too frequent. I thought really hard and decided to change the negative thoughts I had about him. It was difficult I can assure you, but it paid off. I started seeing him differently when my thoughts about him changed. Actually, I have come to love him, even though he still gets on my nerves from time to time. No, one is perfect, afterall.

Why did my thoughts about him change? My thoughts changed for two reasons. The first was, I told myself that whatever he did, he did in the best interest of the group even though he never went about it the right way. I also told myself he was only acting and behaving as much as he knew how to. In addition to this, I made a conscious effort to understand him and his perculiar reasoning.

All said, I have seen people married to the most difficult persons who genuinely think that their spouses are angels and the secret is what I just revealed to you. It all boils down to what you decide to think about him or her.

So my advice is, identify the unlovable people in your life and deliberately choose to change your negative thoughts about them and soon you will begin to see them differently.Try it, it works.

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